What is your take on this shower gift?
Category: Baby Patterns
My mother-in-law asked me to put more stuff on my registry because she feels if something i get that i don’t really want i can return it. I feel if i put only what i need it will almost make sure i get that stuff.
That’s not my question. My mother-in-law’s sister was giving my mother-in-law gentle used second hand baby stuff, like a walker, high chair, stroller, and pack and play. My mother-in-law was gonna keep this stuff at her house. (i didn’t like the pattern anyway). She just called me and told me that the pack and play was broken and had to be thrown out. However told her sister to get me a pack and play anyway and give that to me for the shower however it stays at my in-laws house.
I think that is unfair. I don’t need a pack & play. My child will not be sleeping at there home. And we only visit them twice a month. My co-worker is whiling to give me his pack & play for free and i can give this one to my mother-in-law. Why should i get gyped on a gift when there is certain things i NEED. Like a high chair, a crib mattress, a cradle mattress, diapers.
What should i say to her because i feel hurt that she isn’t taking in consideration what we need.
I don’y mind using used things. I love shopping at garage sales and things like that/. The items in question are fine, they are a bit girlish and we are having a boy, my MIL wants to keep them at her house. not a big deal. The pack & play is broken so my mother-in-laws sister. (my hubby’s aunt) threw it out. My MIL told her to get us a brand new one for my MIL house only.
I just priced it them they cost the same as a high chair. I can get another used pack & play for free.
Basicly my hubby aunt is buy my MIL a present not me.
Tell her that you are going to get one for free and she can keep it at her house. You are the mommy. MIL are not always bad when it comes to advice but they can become overbearing at times. This is your baby and you put what you want on the registry
I understand your frustration, but I think your attitude is wrong. You got “gyped” on a gift. You are not entitled to any gifts.
However, trying to be helpful maybe you can call your mother-in-law’s sister and thank her for what she gave your mother-in-law and mention do not worry about the pack and play we really don’t need one. That way you sound like you are being nice but also getting the point to her look I do not need a pack n play. If then she still choses to get a pack n play, that was her choice and you should be thankful for her kindness.
My mil got us a used stroller car seat combo and I didn’t care that it was used, but it was out dated, so we couldn’t use the car seat, and now I just went and bought the stroller that I wanted, so now we have no use for the stroller…the one that my mil bought us isn’t a pattern that I would have bought, and I think that if someone is going to buy something used they need to ask opinions before doing so in the first place, because I would have told her that I didn’t want it in the first place, now I have to deal with telling her that I have a new one.. I’m just going to tell her that my mom bought it for us without knowing we had one, that way I dont have to feel bad telling her I just didn’t like the one she got us.
But to directly answer your question, yes, she should take into consideration what you need, not what she thinks you need.
get the co-workers pack and play, and when you get the pack and play from your sister in law, go return it and by something you need, and give your mother in law the free pack and play. If you dont want to do it behind anyones back, call your sister in law and tell her you have already been given a pack and play, and you will have no use for it at your home, so that can go to mother in laws. Just tell her, i just wanted to let you know, that way you wouldnt waste the money on something i already had…i could really use some diapers though. Make it sound like your doing her the favor.
I would call up very innocently and say “hey, guess what, my friend just gave me a pack and play. It’s in perfect condidtion, hardly used. I am going to bring it over to keep at your house. Isnt’ this great? Do you think it would be OK to ask your sister to get me the high chair we really need?” or better yet, perhaps he should call his mother and tell her about the pack and play and he can suggest what you both really need.Good Luck, I feel for you but keep in mind how blessed you are to be having this baby. Don’t let her attitude rune your happiness.
Tell her you’ve found a free one that is fully functioning. If she doesn’t pass on the message, you may have to call the aunt and politely inform her of that yourself.
That does suck!
Tell her that somebody already bought you a pack and play.
I don’t think used gifts are necessary for a shower and be left at your MIL’s. she sucks
Wow. A gift is not something you are owed. It’s something people give out of the kindness of their hearts. You can’t dictate what other people give you. By the way, even if you only visit twice a month, it’s really nice to have a place to put the baby down for a nap. He or she will outgrow the car seat within a year, and will need someplace safe to nap. It’s your job to provide what your baby NEEDS. Shower gifts are extras. Don’t say anything to your mother-in-law, unless you want to create a scene. It’s not worth it.
unless the item is broken the is nothing wrong with using used things. my daughter got clothes highchair car seat swing a reallyy good stroller at garage sales. she still gets new clothes and there were a few items we chose to go new on such as pack n play crib and toys. but trust me it is so much less expensive to do garage sales. I get so many clothes with tags still on them for 50 cents…as for given a broken used gift as baby gift, while the thought is nice, just tell them you alrady have one they can use. now days, whith all these chemical scares and recalls, they should understand